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This is about how (un)common it is for people to say something nice to someone else, when they think it. For example when you go into a shop to buy something and you find that the sales assistant is great, they are helpful, knowledgeable, polite and generally ‘on the spot’, do you tell them that they are great at what they are doing? When a friend is a fantastic listener exactly when you need one, do you tell them? Same for family members, work colleagues and so on. Or even someone on the street that you think they have great clothes color co-ordination.  This is something that varies from country to country. It depends on culture indicators, local or national customs, gender relations, power structures and all sorts of other things, including your mood at that moment. Americans for example do it more than the British and both do it more than the Greeks. (on the other hand, Americans and Greeks are more likely to complain than the Brits). Yes, sometimes you may get misunderstood. People may take it the wrong way, they may think you want something from them, a favor, sex, money, you may be wanting to score brownie points, this sort of thing. It doesn’t matter. If you say it only when you actually mean it, it will become clear very quickly. And, it will create a cycle, however small, of feeling good for doing something right, being appreciated, and being surrounded by people who will say it, therefore won’t be reacting strangely to be on the receiving end either, should the opportunity arise. The outcome is a greater number of people likely to be in a better mood, regardless of whatever else is happening to them or to you. It also means less introversion, less self-absorption. More communication, less monkey-talk-on-mobile, monkey text, monkey twit, monkey facebook.

you think you look very different to that, don’t you?